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Filthy radical, difficult, impossible forgiveness

I’ve been listening a lot to Brandi Carlile’s most recent album, By The Way, I Forgive You. It’s a raw, acoustic, melting pot of country, pop, and Americana sound with some beautiful tracks containing personal stories about her daughter and … Continue reading

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On being ABC (part 2/2): The past and future of Asian “Tiger Parenting”

ABC: American-born Chinese. A term widely used to refer to American citizens of Chinese descent, excluding first-generation immigrants.  Thanks to Amy Chua, the Tiger Parent has become a cultural trope discussed to death, yet only more recently have I seen … Continue reading

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On being ABC (part 1/2): It’s called “internalized racism”

ABC: American-born Chinese. A term widely used to refer to American citizens of Chinese descent, excluding first-generation immigrants.  I was in middle school when I first realized that the popular kids were mostly white, and that these social groups seemed … Continue reading

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When were you going to tell me?

As I boarded the bus departing Ithaca last Saturday, my mother called after me, “Why do you always leave so soon? … Don’t forget to call home often! Call me if anything happens. Have a safe trip!” I rolled my eyes and looked … Continue reading

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Private confessions in public

Yesterday, my mother was baptized. As I couldn’t be present at her baptism and the preceding testimony, I pressed her to tell me what she was going to say. This afternoon, she emailed me an English-translated transcript of the speech she … Continue reading

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Curves or lack thereof

In the last two months, my mother and I have had hours of conversation about fake breasts. Silicone breasts. Breasts reconstructed from your own body fat. Chicken-cutlet-style falsies tucked into a special bra. More importantly, the pros and cons of each, … Continue reading

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Caring for elderly parents: responsibility, culture, obligation, love, expectation…

This morning, I woke up to a text message from my brother sent late last night, “You read the nyt article about aging Asian American parents. Hits kinda close to home. Comments are quite thought provoking.” I had. And he … Continue reading

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“Next of kin”

I’m at the age where the topic of marriage starts to occasionally creep into conversations. Among my friends, we all I know of friends or friends-of-friends who are married or engaged to be married. The conversation usually starts “but they’re … Continue reading

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